I was born on the Day of Research so as soon as I heard the words Sensory Processing Disorder I hit the ground running. I read and I read. My eyes turned to saucers as I read an article that literally described a little boy who could have been my son. I got on Amazon and ordered the two most suggested books about Sensory Processing Disorder. The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz and Raising A Sensory Smart Child by Lindsey Biel, and Nancy Peske
Sensory processing disorder (SPD) is a condition in which the brain has trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through the senses. (Smitha Bhandari, MD “Sensory Processing Disorder” WebMD 31 May 2016). So what exactly does that mean? When someone has SPD information coming in through the senses isn’t processed properly and this misinterpretation of input can lead to issues with mood and/or behavior. Sensory input can be anything from sights, sound, lights, touch, smells and tastes and movement input (where your body is in relation to space). Any information we receive through our senses. A person with SPD will often overreact or under react to what others consider “normal” amounts of sensory input.
Sensory Processing Disorder is a spectrum disorder which means there is a wide range of symptoms. Most people are affected by one or more types of sensory processing symptoms, but they are not usually enough to affect everyday functioning. For example, some people do not like seams on their socks or tags in their clothes, so they buy seamless socks and tagless clothes or they cut off tags from their clothes. Other people do not like the way lotions, oils, bug sprays or sunblock feels on their skin so they will avoid using these products. Some people love the way textures and fabrics feel so they are constantly touching everything. These examples by themselves are often manageable but people with true Sensory Processing Disorder often have multiple sensory seeking or sensory avoidant behaviors that disrupt everyday life and functioning.
I found this to be a great article about sensory avoiding and sensory seeking behaviors. Some SPD people are seekers, some are avoiders and some have a combination of both.
SPD can also affect your proprioceptive system and your vestibular system. The proprioceptive system tells the brain where the body is in relation to other objects and how to move. (Arky, Beth “Sensory Processing Issues Explained” Child Mind Institute). The Vestibular System, which is a contributor to our balance system and our sense of spatial orientation, is the sensory system that provides the dominant input about movement and equilibrioception. (“The Vestibular System“, SPD Australia). Both systems play an important role in everyday functioning.
A “normal” person isn’t bothered by the touch of their clothes against their skin, but to someone with SPD the feel of certain materials against their skin might make them feel like they are on fire. A child with SPD might be sensitive to light touch so they may be fine in small groups, but if they are put in a large group of children where the kids are touching and bumping and poking each other the SPD child might meltdown, run away from the group or push a child that touches them because they can no longer handle the sensory input.
Often when children get overwhelmed by sensory input they go into a”fight, flight or freeze” response. They will “Fight”- Get angry or irritable or rage, they will have a meltdown or tantrum, they will kick, push or hit. The will “Flight”- the might panic, cry, try to run away or try to remove themselves from the situation, they will try to hide or they will withdraw. They will “Freeze”- they won’t move or speak or respond, they will just curl up and get quiet.
Phew… Are you overwhelmed yet? Yeah, me too. . . where a child is frustrated and
Sensory Processing Disorder is not a well-known disorder and many pediatricians, doctors, and teachers do not know about the disorder. Children silently suffer and get labeled as behavior problems, when in reality they are suffering from SPD. Parents get made to feel like horrible people who don’t discipline their children, or who don’t discipline them correctly and people feel the need to tell parents of SPD children they are doing a shit job of parenting. They are not. They are doing the best job they can often not knowing that SPD is the cause for their children’s behavior. This needs to change. We need to educate the doctors and teachers and other people who come in contact with children so they can help point the parents of SPD children to helpful resources so they can help these children and the earlier the better. . .
This is another step forward on a very long, very hard and tearful journey towards helping my child.
I don’t know about you but I don’t like spending a boat load of money on clothes. I used to work in promotional products and if you knew how much profit they make selling you a $20 t-shirt with a snazzy logo you would rarely buy one again (unless it’s to support an awesome cause).
Also, my child grows like a weed. We bought him a pair of cowboy boots in October to go with his Cowboy Halloween costume and by November he had outgrown them. I bought my son a handful of pants for the winter a few months back because I thought it might be cold, but our Texas winter only lasted a couple of days before the weather warmed back up making long pants unbearable. I went to his drawer to grab him some shorts only to discover that most of them were not going to fit and his swim trunks for his swim lessons were getting a little snug. I knew I would be having to make a shopping trip for him.
I went to my favorite kid’s resale store during my lunch break the next day and I scored. I found 10 pairs of shorts, 2 pairs of swim trunks and 4 shirts for right around $50. That’s less than $3.50 per item average and I got him practically a wardrobe of clothes that should last well into summer as long as he doesn’t grow too much more… Two of the shorts still had tags on them, I always find superhero wear and all the clothes still have a lot of wear in them. I have to say I’ve found some of the most awesome shirts at the thrift stores, All the SuperHero’s, Disney’s Cars, Monster Trucks, Dinosaurs, Curious George and Dr. Seuss. I don’t think I ever would have found those last two anywhere else, and definitely not at less than $5 a piece. I have a rule that I won’t spend more than $5 on an item of clothing for my child unless it’s a specialty piece like a jacket or shoes. Unfortunately, the weather just took a turn back to cold, but thanks to my $50 fall wardrobe purchase he has plenty of warm pants.
If you’ve never been thrift shopping I encourage you to give it a try, and not just for the kiddo’s. I am currently wearing a pair of Express Jeans I scored in a thrift shop two years ago for $20 because I refuse to spend more than $20 on a pair of jeans. Sometimes it can be frustrating because you find something you love in the wrong size and they don’t have the correct size, but sometimes it’s awesome and you find exactly what you’re looking for. There are so many brands all in one place, you don’t have to wait and shop the sales and you won’t find something you absolutely love, look at the price tag and have to hang it back up.
The tension spilled from their bodies
As the dark secrets
They could tell to so few
Tumbled from their lips
The bond of sharing a more similar past
then they had previously known
Bringing more relief to them
Than any words or actions could offer
The comfort of knowing
they are Not Alone
Making the journey towards the future
A brighter and more attainable goal.
© 2009 LRFB