I love this and agree with this for the most part… unfortunately I’ve taken this to the opposite extreme and tolerated things I shouldn’t have because I personalized it to mean my expectations were ALWAYS out of whack. For example, when I was first married everyone said the first year was hard. So, I went with it and kept lowering my expectations. But I had trouble seeing how emotionally demeaning and abusive he was until after I left… which I only did because he started smoking crack. I wonder how much more I would have tolerated if I just continued thinking it was my fault if he hadn’t finally given me an obvious out.
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I love this and agree with this for the most part… unfortunately I’ve taken this to the opposite extreme and tolerated things I shouldn’t have because I personalized it to mean my expectations were ALWAYS out of whack. For example, when I was first married everyone said the first year was hard. So, I went with it and kept lowering my expectations. But I had trouble seeing how emotionally demeaning and abusive he was until after I left… which I only did because he started smoking crack. I wonder how much more I would have tolerated if I just continued thinking it was my fault if he hadn’t finally given me an obvious out.
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